Hey Reader,
There's something I've been thinking a lot about lately.
Why do we think we have to figure everything out on our own?
I know a lot of it comes down to what we've been taught.
We gotta be strong. Independent. To have our shit together.
We should be paying our bills on time.
We should be making good money.
We should have the picture perfect relationship.
We should be following our passions and dreams.
And we DEFINITELY should be able to figure all of this out on our OWN.
But if I had a nickel for every time I told my clients to STOP shoulding all over themselves… I’d be a rich bitch. 😂
And this is the thing that gets me the most…
For all the things we've been taught we should be doing, we haven't really been encouraged to boldly claim the creative identity we’ve been longing to step into.
Instead we've been taught to be practical. To work hard. Earn our place. And be REALISTIC about our expectations.
And then we started believing that if something isn't difficult, we haven't really earned it.
That doing MORE makes us more worthy.
And that struggling is somehow proof that we're doing it right.
What's brewing
I believe there's a part of us that already knows what we're meant to create.
But we've been conditioned to question that knowing.
Maybe you learned that you had to do everything perfectly so nobody could invalidate you or tell you you were wrong.
Maybe you learned to keep your ideas to yourself because expressing them was dangerous.
Maybe you learned that pursuing something you love would mean more work, struggle or responsibility.
Or maybe… just maybe, somewhere along the way, you started to believe that your dreams weren't meant for someone like you.
These aren't necessarily conscious decisions.
They're patterns. Programs. Beliefs we've carried with us for years. Maybe they didn’t even come from us… we were indoctrinated into them.
But THOSE things are the blocks standing between us and our truest creative expression.
Because what if the vision you’ve been setting aside is the one that will COMPLETELY change your life?
What if the identity you’ve built around being practical, responsible or fiercely independent is no longer serving the person you’re becoming?
And what if the next version of you requires letting go of the curated version of yourself that you’ve worked SO desperately hard to maintain?
Sometimes the very things we believe make us strong… are ACTUALLY the things that are keeping us stuck.
And maybe recognizing that is the permission we need to set ourselves free.
JUST FOR YOU:
Creative AlCHEMY EXERCISE
This New Moon, I invite you to do a little exploring.
Think about a creative vision you've been carrying. Maybe it's a project, a business, a piece of art, a new direction or something you haven't even found the words for yet.
Now ask yourself:
What have I been telling myself I should do before I'm allowed to pursue this?
Maybe you should have more money.
Maybe you should know exactly how it's going to work.
Maybe you should be further along by now.
Maybe you should be able to figure it out on your own.
Notice what comes up.
And then ask yourself:
Whose voice is that, anyway?
Is it actually YOURS? Or is it something you’ve just been carrying for so long that you’ve mistaken it for truth?
Maybe it’s actually your moms… or a teacher from middle school. Maybe you heard it on the news when you were a kid and it embedded itself into your mind.
You CERTAINLY don't have to figure it all out today.
But recognizing the pattern is the first step towards releasing it.
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AN INVITATION FOR YOU
If something in today's newsletter resonated, I have a question for you:
What's actually standing between you and your creative vision?
I built a little poll to help you recognize where you might be feeling stuck.
Choose the answer that resonates most, and you'll unlock a private invitation to work with me in a Creative Clarity Session.
Because sometimes we don't need to work harder… we actually just need another perspective.
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Until next time, sending so much love and creative clarity your way.
Kat ❤️
“Stop Shoulding All over yourself.”
— Me